Focus, Focus, Focus!

How often do you whisper to yourself, “Focus, focus, focus?” Do you sometimes even shout it? I do. Often. At home and at work, I find that I can very easily be distracted, especially when multitasking like thinking and driving at the same time.

You laugh, but just the other day I was driving to work and almost ended up headed toward my daughter’s cheerleading gym. I took one turn that I am so used to taking because I was thinking of the hundred things I needed to accomplish as soon as I got to work.

How many times have you gone down the wrong path, literally or figuratively, when you should be going somewhere else? What about the times you click on that email notification when you should be writing a report? Or when you start organizing your bookshelf when you should have grabbed the manual and gotten back to work? I know I am not the only one. Am I?

Is there anyone else out there trying to focus more? If so, let’s help each other out by sharing some ideas for how to stay on track. Here are my three: I am trying to kick the habit of multi-tasking, I am prioritizing my tasks better, and I am using my Outlook calendar to schedule time for my multiple work projects.

What are you doing to stay focused?

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Always be Prepared to Launch a Job Search

I believe in always being prepared…for family events, work meetings or my next job search, I agree with Alexander Graham Bell who said, “Before anything else, preparation is the key to success.” And so, on this Work It, Girl Wednesday! I thought I would share an excerpt from my book Work It, Girl.  In the chapter titled 10 Good Choices You Can Make for Professional Success, number 9 is: Always be prepared to launch a job search.

“Whether you decide to jump ship or you have been thrown overboard, here are some tactical moves that will keep you afloat.

1.       Don’t update your resume, write a new one to get a fresh perspective on what you have to offer an employer.  Job announcements contain clues of what’ hiring authorities are looking in job candidates.

2.       Scour your performance evaluations and training records to see whether your achievements match the job requirements and to determine whether you need additional training to land your dream job.

3.       Ask many others for input on your resumes.  Ask people in the same field to make suggestions on its content and solicit other people to proof documents for typographical errors.

4.       Test the waters.  If you feel comfortable with the idea, send out a few resumes to gauge the effectiveness of it and to determine how prepared you are for the job search.  Don’t overdo it, though, an employer who finds out that you were not seriously looking for work may not request an interview with you the next time you apply for a position there.”

What other ways do you make sure you are always prepared to launch a job search?

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What to Delete from Your Resume Right Now!

Grab a pen right now and strike out the useless items below.  They can and will put you at an unfair disadvantage if you include them on your resume.  How so? Hiring managers are human.  And where there are humans, there is room for unintentional discrimination, stereotypical thinking and general assumptions that could keep you from getting the job you want.  So, get rid of:

Date of Birth: Who wants to be subject to people’s generational opinions or opinions about whether you are too old or too young to have the experience they need?

Marital status and your spouse’s military rank:  Neither of them are relevant to the job, ever.  If they are, it’s probably not a fair work environment.

Number and ages of dependents:  Whether you care for children or other family members is no business of your employer.

Religious beliefs shouldn’t matter unless you are being hired to work in that arena.  For example, being a Christian might be relevant to teaching religion classes at a Christian school, but not to teaching math at a public school.

Hobbies: Unless they show a lot of experience in the job you want (computer repair, for instance) hobbies almost never have value-added.  Volunteer work might though, especially if it hints at your skills (planning community events might be directly related to jobs that require excellent communication, organizing, and project management skills).

Photo: What you look like has no bearing on your capabilities. If hiring managers really want to see you, they can invite you to an interview or check you out on social media sites.  And, even though there isn’t much you can do about whether they find you online, you can make sure that your online image represents you well.

Salary history: Employers want to pay the lowest possible salary for the most qualified candidate.  It makes good business sense.  So, unless salary is required to be included (like on a federal application), take it off.  Otherwise, you might be offered a salary that is much lower than what you want, just because of what you were paid in the past.  And, if you didn’t receive what you felt you deserved then, why stay stuck at that pay?

Reasons you left past jobs:  If you left a job because your military spouse was re-assigned, you were fired, or you just hated the job, and that’s what you say on your resume, employers might eliminate you from the running.   So, delete it from the resume now, and prepare a truthful, but well-stated reply if asked about it in the interview.

What other items do you think might cause an unfair disadvantage to a job hunter if it is included on her resume?

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Flip the (Phone) Script

Goodafternoonthankyouforcallingtheturningpointcorporationthisis
deborahcolesjacksonhowmayihelpyou?

Huh? I’m sorry, is this the Turning Point Corporation?

Yesitisma’amhowmayihelpyoutoday?

May I speak with Deborah Coles Jackson, please?

Thisisdeborahcolesjacksonhowmayihelpyou?

Oh brother.

Do you cringe when calling a business and have an exchange like this? Even though you have never met the person on the other end, do you have little confidence that she will be able to deliver what you expect? Will you be frustrated before she’s even had the chance to try to help you?

If you answered ‘yes’ to any of these questions, then you know that how you answer the telephone at work can say a lot of things about you, whether or not they are true.

In this instance , the ‘professional’ might be perceived as anything but professional. She might come across as lazy, hurried, stressed, uncaring, distracted, or incapable.

Think about how you answer the phone. Is it time for you to flip the script? If so, here’s some pointers to get you started.

1. Change the words of your greeting to something unfamiliar. This will help slow you down and talk with your caller, not at your caller.

2. Stop what you are doing and focus on the caller. No multitasking, it’s almost impossible to hide it no matter how well you think you juggle tasks.

3. Don’t chew gum, eat, smoke, or sip on a drink while on the phone. This is something else you can’t hide it from the caller.

4. Don’t pick up the phone on the first ring, when you are running in the door, or when you are running out of it. Take a breath and then answer it. Or, let voice mail serve its purpose and allow yourself a couple minutes to prepare.

What would you add to the list of pointers for the deborahcolesjacksons of the business world?

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Are Your References Available Upon Request?

I love to give glowing professional references to people who deserve them. But I love it even more when I get a heads-up so I can be better prepared to do so.

After all, just because you use that dreaded phrase “References available upon request” on your resume doesn’t mean they are as available as you’d like them to be, unless you take control.

So, to help me (or anyone for that matter) help you increase the chances you’ll be chosen over other potential candidates, follow these simple rules:

• Always keep a master list of 5-10 persons who you are confident will sing your praises.

• As soon as you begin your job search campaign, review the list to determine the 3-5 most appropriate references for the current job search. Make your list diverse (peers, managers, clients, customers, and those who know you in academic, volunteer, recreational and social settings).

• Select one or two persons to write a letter of recommendation. This is especially good if you are not sure if someone will give you the supportive reference you need. It also comes in handy if you or one of your references will relocate soon.

• Ask your references in advance to support you, don’t assume they will. Confirm their best contact information and the best times to reach them. Give them your contact information, too, in case they have questions later (or need you to return the favor).

• If you use social media to make contact (only), follow-up with a call or an email to provide them with details and a more personable approach.

• Give your references helpful information about you, such as your job search goal, time line, relevant background, and a copy of your resume.

That’s it for me, any other ideas to share or questions to ask?

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Making Military Love Work

When a fellow long-time milspouse and fellow author asked me to share my thoughts about making military love work, I was delighted. Anyone who knows me knows that I am more than happy to do so at any given point in time.

As tough as it was for me to come up with just one idea to share, I did. And here is what I had to say…

Grow as individuals and as a couple

“One of my favorite and most vivid memories of our wedding ceremony was when we raised two lit candles that represented each one of us and used those candles to light the flame of a bigger candle. That symbolizes one of the ways we have made love work for the past 21 years. We have been committed to nurturing who we are as individuals and who we are as a couple.” — Pamela McBride, Army spouse and author of Work it, Girl! The Black Woman’s Guide to Professional Success (Parker Publishing, 2007)

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What are ways you would share for making military love, or for that matter—ANY love work these days?

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Oh Shoot!

Think you screwed up at work? Don’t worry, it happens to the best of us, and it’s not the end of the world.  But, it can cost you, big time, if you don’t make the right moves to save your butt!

Tell on Yourself, Now!

Notify your manager as soon as you realize you have made a mistake and apologize for it.  If she gets blindsided with the news from someone else, it will only be worse for you.  Plus, it never gets better over time. Take the emotions out of it and provide facts and context about how and why it happened.  Brainstorm a few ideas on how to rectify the situation and share them with your manager to keep the focus on your high level of professionalism. Then, ask how she he would like you to handle it and get to it promptly.

Learn Your Lesson, Later

Once things have quieted down, learn from your mistake. Go back and review the whole situation and what part your actions played in it.  Could you have prevented it? If so, what can you put in place or suggest so that it doesn’t happen again?  Talk to your manager again. Arrange an appropriate time to discuss with your manager your future actions or suggestions and be open to feedback about what else you can do to prevent it in the future.  Apologize again and thank your manager for any feedback or guidance she provided. Remember to perform at the highest possible standard everyday…that’s sure to lessen the impact on your credibility when you do err, and it will also increase the possibility of professional forgiveness.

When was there a time when you screwed up at work? Do tell!

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Get Creative about Your Calling

We all have a calling…something that we were meant to do for a living.

Unfortunately, we sometimes think we have to give up that calling just because we are military spouses, but that simply is not true! Sure, we may have to relocate every couple years and with little notice from Uncle Sam.

And, whatever training or education we take might be interrupted by relocation, deployment, or inconsistent certification requirements from state-to-state or country-to-country.

But sometimes, when you have a positive attitude about change, a PCS move might be just what you need to get creative about your calling.

So, instead of facing relocation as a worse case scenario, use this time to make some creative moves. For example, you could:

Try something new.  If you have been thinking of changing career fields, trying a new type of job within your career or starting a business, this could be a perfect time to plan for it.

Go back to School.  Brick and mortar classrooms no longer have to be the bane of our existence as military spouses, forcing us to live separately from our husbands or lose academic credit.  When I got married half-way through my senior year in college in Boston, my husband was stationed at Fort Hood, TX.  And, when I was almost finished with my Master’s Degree near Fort Bragg, NC, my husband was PCS’d to Alexandria, VA. We had to live apart for a while in both cases, but now, there are plenty of fully accredited online colleges, universities, and professional training institutions that can help you meet your career goals, so take advantage of what they have to offer.

Finally, you could even start a business. We have so many gifts and talents to share, but sometimes sell ourselves short with respect to making a living by using them.  Whatever skills you have, think about how you could get paid for your passion.

Remember what ‘they’ say: Do what you love and the money will follow!

What is your calling? How can you get creative about using it the next time you move? How have you been creative about it in the past?

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Working Alone doesn’t Have to be Lonely

As you probably know, I have a passion for helping others pursue their passions and Work It, Girl! So, when I was asked to share with the readers of The Entrepreneur Gazette, tips for how to deal with the loneliness of being a solopreneur, here’s what I said:

How I connect is: Your best weapon against the “lonely entrepreneur syndrome” is a team of accountability partners. When setting new goals or brainstorming ideas my loneliness (and procrastination) sets in, but my accountability partners help me stop hovering and take flight. All entrepreneurs should have a variety of mutually beneficial accountability partnerships. Inherent in the interactions is a socially stimulating exchange of skills, advice, and a good swift kick in the butt when it’s needed.

Now, it’s your turn and I am expanding the question to be more inclusive. Share your tips on combating loneliness when you have to work alone, whether you are an entrepreneur, an employed professional, or a student.

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What the Heck is a Portable Career?

We military spouses are accustomed to picking up and moving at a moment’s notice. As far as we are concerned, everything is portable, including our careers. But, if you are a new bride or a stay-at-home-mom who is considering starting a career and not quite sure what the heck is a portable career, in general, the bottom line is that you need to be able to pack up your skills and earning potential and take them with you where ever you go, without having to start over with every move. For each of us, this might translate into something different.

“To some military spouses it means being able to earn money regardless of where you live. To others of us, it might mean finding a job in your skills area or career field on a regular basis. For others still, it might mean being able to keep the same job regardless of where you or your employer is physically located. Or you may be able to identify national and international companies that need your skills and are willing to relocate you, let you telecommute, or open a satellite office.” ~The Mocha Manual to Military Life

So, what careers are easily transferable? The more traditional ones include teaching, nursing, accounting, and office administration. The less traditional and more creative ones include web and graphic design, freelance writing, virtual assistance, and online support. But there are so many more! What strategies work best to overcome the career challenges of the mobile lifestyle? Work for a government contractor. For 15 years I worked for a contractor who provided services on military installations all over the world and I did not have one PCS where I was without a job in my career field. Work for a temporary agency. This is a wonderful way to earn money while trying out employers in the local area before deciding which one might be a better fit. Be a virtual success. The internet has made entrepreneurship easy for thousands upon thousands of military spouses. It has also enabled many of us obtain education, training and professional credentials online, at our own pace, and from where ever we are.

Do you already have a portable career? Please share any tips you have for military spouses to build or maintain their own.

Do you want a portable career? What are you going to do first to build it?

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